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Should You Get Back With Your Ex?

By: Kevin Thompson   July 18, 2013
Online Dating

Wanting to get your ex back is a knee jerk reaction after a breakup. But it’s not necessarily the right one. Heck in most cases, even being friends with your ex could be like walking on a landmine. Before you decide to get back together with your ex, you have to decide whether or not you are doing it for the right reason. Ask yourself these questions to find out.

1. Are you just lonely?

Do you suddenly feel a huge void in your life after breaking up? Do you think your ex can fill it? If so, then you are definitely not getting back together for the right reasons. It’s completely normal to feel a lot of emotions after a breakup. If you get back together just because you are having a hard time being single, you are making a big mistake. All the problems in your relationship will resurface and you will probably break up again.

2. Are you just jealous?

Is your ex starting to date someone? Is it making you sick to your stomach? Jealousy is a strong motivator, but not the right one. Getting back together because of jealousy is only a prerequisite for another breakup. Unless you are absolutely sure that this time things will be different, you should not get back together.

3. Are you just feeling rejected?

If you were dumped, chances are the breakup had some effect on your self-esteem. If you are feeling rejected, then you have to stop taking the breakup personally. Just because someone is not compatible with you doesn’t mean you are any less of a person. You are a wonderful person and getting back together just to feel better about yourself is not a good idea.

4. Is there really hope for the relationship?

Be realistic about your expectation. Do you really think that you will be happy in the relationship if you reconcile? Whatever problem you guys had, was it solvable? If it was something major (like one of you wanted kids and the other one didn’t), then you should just bite the bullet and move on. But if the problem was something that can be worked on (like communication problems), then it might be a good idea to give the relationship another chance.

A lot of couples get back together after breaking up and things become better between them. Sometimes a breakup makes you realize how much you love someone and how much you want to make things work with them and sometimes, the breakup just makes it clear how much you are better off without them. The key is to give yourself enough time and space to realize which category you fall into.



About the author: Kevin has been helping couples get back together on his website UnBreakup.org. He writes regularly on his website about breakups and how to get through them with your head held high.






 


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